I am on the road to what I hope will be eventual ordination in the United Church of Christ. I live in Maryland and attend a predominantly African-American Baptist & UCC church in Washington, DC.
My calling is to help those who have been hurt and wounded by the church to feel the radically inclusive love of Jesus Christ, and I believe this love extends to my gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender brothers and sisters. This makes me a target for both Christians who don’t believe there is such a thing as a “gay Christian” and for GLBT people who don’t understand why anyone would want to be part of a community that seems to hate them so much. This also made it impossible for my chapter to make it into this book.
People ask me, how do you counsel people about their Christianity and sexuality? My answer? When you try to reconcile your sexuality with Christianity, you can get stuck on either end of the equation if you’re told the two are mutually exclusive. If you deny your sexuality, you know you are lying, which does not make you much of a Christian. If you don’t believe in big lies and little lies (which I don’t) why trade one lie for another? If you deny Christ, and deny your chance at salvation, what is your reason for living?
I believe this is the mission God has given me, to have these conversations, and to remain in dialog.